What is self-confidence?
I think we have a tendency to use the word “confidence” in a way that isn’t entirely correct.
“If I was confident, I would be able to do xyz.”
So, for someone to state that they want to be confident to do something they’ve never tried before or have not yet developed expertise in is a bit of a misnomer. It’s a combination of various things, it’s underpinned by self-esteem; and if your self-esteem is in your shoes, it can be difficult to have confidence; there’s also self-efficacy, which is a belief that you can achieve your goals, and a big helping of optimism, which is ALWAYS a good thing.
I think everyone has those days, when you think you’re not good enough.
You know it when you wake up in the morning, and you get that sense that there’s just something feels a bit off. Everything seems just slightly off-centre, and you just don’t seem to be able to get anything right.
If you are in a not so happy relationship, are single, or in the midst of a break up, Valentines Day anxiety is a very real thing. It’s one thing when you are happy and playing for the smug side, but as someone who is not feeling too at one with the world, this holiday on steroids can be fraught.
Valentines Day doesn’t have to be just about couples. How about treating yourself well? Tomorrow is Singles’ Day but it’s not like you have to hibernate until it’s your time. Follow this advice, and feel good about yourself when you may just need it the most.
Answer honestly; are your needs being met?
Answer honestly; are your needs being met? Or do you have the nagging feeling that something is missing, but you don’t know what?
Anyone who has ever studied Psychology will be familiar with Abraham Maslow. Even those of you who haven’t will be familiar with the concepts he discussed, the basics of our needs. TV adverts ram these concepts home when they say, “buy our products, they’ll keep you safe and warm, you’ll smell nicer, and you’ll have to beat the gender of your choice away with a big stick.
Develop an Ego
It happens to us all at times. We have our confidence bashed and we start to believe we aren’t as good as “them” and don’t deserve the good stuff.
Well, that’s a load of rubbish, and we’re going to set that one right today.
The Outsider’s Guide to Business (and why you can’t be anyone but yourself).
Are you a bit of an edgy business owner? I’m told I am. I think “edgy” is the nice way of putting it that I sail a bit too close to the wind, as one of my contacts put it. But, as one of my clients told me earlier, “honey, you ARE the wind.” I’m cool with that.
Do Your Actions Support a Strong Mindset?
Life isn’t fair. Shit happens. It’s clear that life doesn’t divide up all good things evenly among all people. You can tell that just by people watching. Some people are better looking than others. Then there are people who are richer than their peers.There are people who come from a good background. They have a great education. They’re intelligent, well-liked – and it appears the world is theirs for the taking. Annoying, aren’t they?
Lost your mojo?
Mojo is great when you’ve got it. It’s usually down to a happy confluence of being “on the up”, meaningful things happening in your life, and your confidence levels being high. So, when you’ve lost your mojo, you really feel it.
Here’s a list of my favourite quick wins for getting your mojo back. They work; they only time they don’t is when you don’t try them.
Kick start New Year with these 3 questions.
How was 2016 for you? I’m hoping that you had a pretty good one really, with the usual ups and downs that we all have, but nothing you couldn’t handle. You’re still here, and facing in the right direction, and all is ok. But what if that wasn’t the case? Wouldn’t it be great to be able to kick start new year because the process is actually really simple?
Are you stuck and sad? Are you in a rut and wondering how on earth you’re going to get out of it? Are you still feeling the past is holding you back? If this sounds like you, and you need to change your life, then this blog post is definitely for you. It’s not a great feeling to be heading into the New Year feeling as shitty as you did the day before. So let’s give 2017 a bit of a kick and make some changes TODAY.
It’s ok to be scared sometimes
I originally wrote this post about being scared in work in 2014. Read on and it will be updated for 2016 towards the end.
2014 marks something of an anniversary for me. It’s ten years since I reached the absolute depth, when my life and everything in it all went to shit, and I reached my lowest point.