What is self-confidence? It’s maybe not what you think.

What is self-confidence? It’s maybe not what you think.

What is self-confidence?

 

I think we have a tendency to use the word “confidence” in a way that isn’t entirely correct.

 

“If I was confident, I would be able to do xyz.”

 

So, for someone to state that they want to be confident to do something they’ve never tried before or have not yet developed expertise in is a bit of a misnomer. It’s a combination of various things, it’s underpinned by self-esteem; and if your self-esteem is in your shoes, it can be difficult to have confidence; there’s also self-efficacy, which is a belief that you can achieve your goals, and a big helping of optimism, which is ALWAYS a good thing.

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When you think you’re not good enough

When you think you’re not good enough

I think everyone has those days, when you think you’re not good enough.

 

You know it when you wake up in the morning, and you get that sense that there’s just something feels a bit off. Everything seems just slightly off-centre, and you just don’t seem to be able to get anything right.

 

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Beat Valentine’s Day Anxiety

Beat Valentine’s Day Anxiety

If you are in a not so happy relationship, are single, or in the midst of a break up, Valentines Day anxiety is a very real thing. It’s one thing when you are happy and playing for the smug side, but as someone who is not feeling too at one with the world, this holiday on steroids can be fraught.

Valentines Day doesn’t have to be just about couples. How about treating yourself well? Tomorrow is Singles’ Day but it’s not like you have to hibernate until it’s your time. Follow this advice, and feel good about yourself when you may just need it the most.

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Are your needs being met?

Are your needs being met?

Answer honestly; are your needs being met?

Answer honestly; are your needs being met? Or do you have the nagging feeling that something is missing, but you don’t know what?

 

Anyone who has ever studied Psychology will be familiar with Abraham Maslow. Even those of you who haven’t will be familiar with the concepts he discussed, the basics of our needs. TV adverts ram these concepts home when they say, “buy our products, they’ll keep you safe and warm, you’ll smell nicer, and you’ll have to beat the gender of your choice away with a big stick.

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Develop an ego and be a VIP

Develop an ego and be a VIP

Develop an Ego

It happens to us all at times. We have our confidence bashed and we start to believe we aren’t as good as “them” and don’t deserve the good stuff.

 

Well, that’s a load of rubbish, and we’re going to set that one right today.

 

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The Outsider’s Guide to Business

The Outsider’s Guide to Business

The Outsider’s Guide to Business (and why you can’t be anyone but yourself).

Are you a bit of an edgy business owner? I’m told I am. I think “edgy” is the nice way of putting it that I sail a bit too close to the wind, as one of my contacts put it. But, as one of my clients told me earlier, “honey, you ARE the wind.” I’m cool with that.

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